I gave a book talk on my special theme of a woman becoming what she can be.  It was at the seasonal kick-off dinner for the Nutley Chapter of AAUW.  I think I passed on my enthusiasm.  While I was signing books a woman came up and stated.  “I’ve decided I’m going to learn to play the cello!”  We all looked at her, thinking that she might be joking, for I had said that when you ask yourself, “What about me?”  you don’t have to ‘run off and join the circus,’ you just have to think of ‘me’–what do I want?  Women are innately nurturers. We don’t think of ourselves first.  My son’s wife told me a story she had read about a woman who went to get a pickle out of the refrigerator and there was only one left.  She didn’t take it in case her husband or one of her children wanted it.  Her husband came in, went to the refrig. and thought nothing of taking the pickle.  That’s just the way it is.  But when a woman asks herself ‘What about me?’, she still may not eat the last pickle–but she might learn to play the cello.What about you?  What do you want to do?  Do you want to play the cello, or just be someone who never eats that pickle.